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Barbara F


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I've been thinking a lot about loss lately. My mother died 27 years ago today at the age of 46. It was unbelievably difficult to get over the loss, but I did go forward and I have a wonderful, happy life with my family, friends, and, of course, my horse.

I guess what I've been thinking about most is how loss makes you realize how insignificant daily aggravations are.

My own loss has taught me that living life to the fullest is more than a cliche. It has also taught me to be extra generous with kind words and to spare people the negative comments.

It has also taught me to get rid of the toxins in my life - toxic people, toxic thinking, unnecessary fears. All of which is a work in progress!

How about you? How has loss changed you for better or worse?



-- Edited by Barbara F on Sunday 5th of June 2011 09:59:39 AM

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How about you? How has loss changed you for better or worse?

 

From as far back as I can remember I was taught there is no such thing as loss.  So I came from the perspective that I am always in a better place because I do not comprehend the word worse.



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I was a Foreign Service brat, between 6 and 12 I live in three countries, USA, Chile, and Uruguay.  I guess I got used to loss at a young age, leaving a settled course, moving to a new place, getting into another settled course, then moving again.

This mainly taught me how to adapt to new conditions.  It also taught me that people can disappear from my life.  Useful skills but sometimes I wonder what it would have been like not having to change my friends completely every few years. 



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Going through the whole getting rid of toxic people in my life, thing right now, it is hard as some just do not understand next thing on to the positive energy minus toxic negative energy will be interesting, i am 28 and just want to be healthy and i think that i have just hit the grow up stage, where i am ready to settle etc, i find my mind at peace and am enjoying it.

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Well when I was 7 my dad passed away and that loss has very much had an impact on my life, in good and bad ways. It has made me a stronger and more open person in some ways, but it also made me a very sensitive/emotional person. As much as it sucks to loose someone, it has made the person I am today, which I believe is a good person, and a good friend.



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I am sorry for your loss Christine C and Barbara F...

I lost my father 12 years ago - it was sudden and unexpected. My father was not one to show emotion or affection, one week before he died he and mum were down on the coast in their 'winter' home even though it was May because Dad had gone to Europe for business (he was a specialist in his field and travelled all over) - they went back to their farm the wk after he got back - anyway...Dad had just arrived from Europe and I was riding a show with my TB...he dropped by to see me ride and afterwards I was going to have pizza at Mum and Dad's house...- well as I was leaving their place after dinner - I was driving past their walk-way and Dad was standing there and waved me down...and said 'you watch your speed young lady.' and I laughed and said 'I love you Daddy.' He said 'ya ya... you slow down.' And started walking away...then he stopped and turned around and said 'I love you too sweetheart.' Then he went up the stairs and into the house. It was the last time I saw him.

Ever since then, I have understood how unpredictable life can be...how quickly things can change...- they can change in a breath...I learned that if you care for someone if you love them....tell them...often....my good friends...and family I always tell 'i love you' when I say good night or when saying good bye...because...you never know if it's the last time you'll see them...

soooo...

after that novella - loss has taught me to apreciate all those around me human, non-human...whatever...it all changes in a breath...I miss my father so very very much...I wish I could see him just once more...hug him...go for a walk with him, have lunch ....just once more...but he's gone...



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Christine-C


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Aw Goatgirl your story brought me to tears. Loss has also taught me to appreciate all those around me

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We had to euthanize our two darling ratties about 10 days ago, as both were very old (for rats) and sick. By coincidence, this post showed up in the scroll. Isn't it strange how affection and friendship can come from the unlikeliest places? When my daughter brought home two little rats from university, we thought she was crazy. Next thing we knew, they stole our hearts.

Here is the tribute I sent out:



I write this note through a flood of tears.

Today we said good-bye to our dear Nelly and Zelda, two beautiful Siamese sister rats who leapt, ran, climbed and cuddled their way into our hearts.

Every day, without exception, the "Ladies" as Gary would call them, greeted us with unbridled enthusiasm and delight. These friendly, intelligent, loving creatures brought us endless hours of laughter and sunshine. They enriched our lives in countless ways and taught us that even the smallest creature has so much love to share. We loved them right back, and today our hearts are broken.

Nelly and Zelda were almost two years old. They died cuddled together, and they will remain together always - devoted sisters who will rest in our garden, covered by their own beautiful flowers.  CLICK FOR PHOTO



-- Edited by Barbara F on Thursday 30th of August 2012 10:37:32 AM

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